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Caledonia, Northern Illinois, United States
I am a Thirty-Something mother of four beautiful girls. My love for them, and the joy I've experienced during this crazy ride called motherhood, has inspired me to help make the dream of a family become a reality for couples through gestational surrogacy. I've proudly helped A&T, as their lives were forever changed when they welcomed a son in April 2010 and K&S were blessed as parents in Sept 2012 when we welcomed their twin boys. I completed my final surrogacy journey Nov 2015 when I helped a wonderful local couple J&W and Big Brother add their family with the birth of twin boys. I am so very fortunate to have wonderful relationships with each one of my surro-families and continue to share in their lives.

Saturday, April 26, 2008

Baby Mama

As a surro myself, I really hope people will see this movie was obviously written for the comedic effect and to be humorous because the portrayal of the entire surrogacy process was pretty inaccurate.

I was disappointed, I wasn't really miffed because I knew they portrayed Amy Poehler's character Angie (SM) to be ignorant and immature but I was hoping for it to have a "feel good" ending. You know, where you walk away touched by the journey they went through together which just didn't happen for me. Everything ends up ok in the end ... she [Tina Fey/Kate] gets her baby and all but it totally removed the best and most amazing part of surrogacy...helping create a beautiful family. DH wanted to remind me it was a comedy not a drama but I didn't like that it left me feeling unfulfilled.

Friday, April 25, 2008

Time for Signatures

FedEx just dropped off the final contracts to my front door. Hoping to get them signed tomorrow night while Jason and I are visiting friends so that they can be our witnesses. I'll be putting them in the mail first thing Monday morning and then off to A&T they go.

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Overview of the Cycling/Transfer Process

For some of you with questions of what is involved in cycling and transfer, I thought I'd share with you the details that go into this process. The protocols vary but this information is pretty accurate in describing all that it entails. ~ Tiffany

The surrogate and the egg donor (intended mother) synchronize their cycles, usually with birth control pills. About 14 days into the birth control pills, usually both surrogate and egg donor will start Lupron. Lupron is a subcutaneous (just under the skin) injection to shut down the bodies normal hormone production so the doctors can control your cycle and be sure the surrogate's uterus is ready to receive the embryos at the exact time for the best chance of success.

The surrogate is usually about a week or so ahead of the egg donor to ensure her uterus will be ready when the eggs are retrieved and fertilized, and because they can keep the SM in a holding pattern for up to 2 weeks once her uterine lining is at optimum.

When your menstrual cycle starts while on Lupron, your Lupron dose is usually decreased by half and you start adding Estrogen replacement to the mix (in the form of pills, patches, or shots depending on your doctor). Some doctors have you take other medications as well (Dexamethasone to suppress male hormones to increase implantation, antibiotics to guard against any infection that might have gone undiagnosed, etc.)

The egg donor starts on injectable fertility hormones on her cycle day 3 to stimulate her ovaries to produce several eggs as opposed to just 1 or 2. Fertility hormones continue anywhere from 7 to 12 days depending on the egg donor's response to the hormones. The egg donor is checked about 3 times a week via ultrasound and blood tests to determine her response to the drugs.

Once the follicles are the right size (about 18-20mm) she is given an HCG shot which induces an LH surge which also matures the eggs. 36 hours after the HCG shot, they do the egg retrieval. Up until this time, the date/time of your transfer is in limbo.

The eggs retrieved are fertilized with sperm from either the Intended Father or a sperm donor and incubated for 2-5 days. Lupron usually stops the day before egg retrieval. Progesterone replacement (most often in the form of intramuscular injections, but sometimes with suppositories or Crinone gel) starts the day of the retrieval and continues until the 12th week of pregnancy or a negative pregnancy test. Estrogen replacement also continues until the 12th week of pregnancy (when the placenta takes over hormone production). Because you were on Lupron and your natural hormones were suppressed, you need to take external sources of these very important hormones in order to maintain any pregnancy that occurs.

When the fertilized embryos are at the proper stage, they are loaded into a special syringe with a thin flexible catheter at the end. The catheter is inserted thru the cervix into the uterine cavity (sometimes with the assistance of abdominal ultrasound to ensure EXACT placement of the embryos) where the embryos are "injected". Most doctors will only transfer three to four 2-day old embryos or two 5-day embryos. Any unused embryos are frozen for a future attempt if a pregnancy doesn't result from the fresh cycle. Bedrest of anywhere from 2 hours to 3 days is usually required immediately following embryo transfer.

Hopefully after all this a pregnancy is achieved, if not the process starts all over again.

Information summary from

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Here we go!!!

I got a call from my lawyer today and contracts are a go. We got them worked out to where we are all satisfied with the agreement and ready to move forward. The paperwork went in the mail today and will first be sent to IPs to sign, then Jason and I and then back to the lawyers.

Once that is all taken care of we'll give a call to the clinic and get to work on cycling and planning a transfer.

Can't wait to start this journey with A&T, I can't even describe how excited I am. Here we go!!!!

Thursday, April 3, 2008

We're getting there

Well after a few emails and a voicemail I finally heard back from my lawyer (she was out of town). I guess A&T's lawyer overlooked the email that was sent by my lawyer with our revisions so she just looked at them this past week. From what I've been told she reviewed everything with A&T, contacted my lawyer to clarify a few things and were satisfied with the revised contract and now on to the final draft.

What does that all mean....really nothing. It won't be official until we sign on the dotted line so until I come across that email saying...PLEASE SIGN and RETURN I'm not getting too excited. However, once that is all said and done we contact the RE to get a cycling calendar. We're getting there.