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Caledonia, Northern Illinois, United States
I am a Thirty-Something mother of four beautiful girls. My love for them, and the joy I've experienced during this crazy ride called motherhood, has inspired me to help make the dream of a family become a reality for couples through gestational surrogacy. I've proudly helped A&T, as their lives were forever changed when they welcomed a son in April 2010 and K&S were blessed as parents in Sept 2012 when we welcomed their twin boys. I completed my final surrogacy journey Nov 2015 when I helped a wonderful local couple J&W and Big Brother add their family with the birth of twin boys. I am so very fortunate to have wonderful relationships with each one of my surro-families and continue to share in their lives.

Monday, February 8, 2010

28 weeks

Since there isn't much of anything new to report just yet, and we have a big appointment this upcoming Thursday (growth u/s and glucose screen) I thought I'd post some ramblings this week and then add a "baby update" later after the OB visit.

So the reoccurring question from strangers who see me out and about with my four girls is, "Are you finally having a boy this time?" To this I usually answer, "Yep it is a boy" and leave it at that but then sometimes they decide to continue the conversation with more questions or comments about me having a boy after all girls. These comments lead to me just telling it all as it is, "He's not my baby, I'm carrying him for a wonderful couple as their surrogate". The majority of people are impressed, excited, amazed but then there are the few that seem sympathetic, "Oh you finally have a boy and you have to give him away!". I don't even know what to say to that, usually I just add that he is not biologically mine so I'm giving him back to his mom and dad, not giving him away. Seems simple enough but there are those who still don't understand.

I like to equate my experience as a surrogate to that of being a daycare provider. I love my daycare children. I've bonded with them, care for them, love & nurture them when their parents are away but I am more than happy for their moms & dads to come get them and to collect the tuition payments each week. **LOL** I'd never dream of wanting to keep the baby I am carrying anymore than I'd dream of keeping one of my daycare children. In this respect I consider my role as a surrogate to be that of a "prenatal nanny". I have a family of my own, four beautiful girls and we are complete. I have no yearning for another baby and to be honest at this stage with our youngest soon to turn three, I'm glad it will be my IPs experiencing the sleepless nights and seemingly endless diaper changes and not me. **wink**

Yes I'll always have a special place in my heart for this little guy but A&T will share that special place too. I've become attached to them as a family, not attached to just baby. When I feel him kick I think first of his momma, waiting and preparing for him. When I talk to him I tell him how excited his daddy is to meet him and snuggle him. I can not wait until the day when I see them holding him for the very first time, to see their tears as all their dreams of family come true. I am so very blessed to have had this opportunity and as the end of the pregnancy draws near I'm looking forward to what the future holds for the family I've helped create.


Lisa said...

Very beautifully said, Tiffany. I like that- prenatal nanny!

Mom said...

As a family we're all so happy for your IPs and proud of the woman you are Tiffany. Love you

Spamela said...

I followed you over from AAS and that is so wonderful. It just crystallizes for me why I am beginning my journey. So sweet it moved me to tears. I am going to have to share that with my IP's at some point...